Chiara Talluto

Author, Wife, Busy Mom, A Woman after God's Heart.

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Reasons of the Seasons – The Appointed Time

 

All you need to know about the ebb and flow of life, your life; can be summed up in a specific Biblical scripture that I am going to share.

Eight versus about the appointed time of when the circumstances of life happen. And, it happens to all of us. In fact, it will or might even have happened to you already. The bottom line, thereof, is how you deal with these points/verses/life hacks, however you call them.

Are you ready? Oh, but wait. First, let me give you the source of these verses. It helps to know who wrote them. There is a saying out there, that says something like this… consider the source when taking criticism or feedback from someone. I believe that statement has value. Not all feedback, not all criticism (constructive or not) should devalue your worthiness in any way. You alone can decide if that individual has authority over you to say those things. Got it?

Now, I digressed. Let’s get back to the source.

In the Bible, there was a king and his name was Solomon. He was the son of David. David, who was the son of Jesse, the shepherd who became king after King Saul. This is the same man who killed Goliath with a slingshot and three stones.

King David was a warrior of a king. He did good in the eyes of the Lord God. He had a blip, though. We all do, he had an adulterous affair with a married woman, got her pregnant, had her husband killed, and then lost the first child. He ended up marrying her. He had eight wives in total. David repented of his wrong-doing to God and was forgiven. Nonetheless, he begot another child and God told David to call him Solomon.

Before David passed, God informed him that no other of his sons but Solomon would become king in his place. And so, Solomon became King. And God loved Solomon. In fact, Solomon was good. He was attractive too, rich, and got whatever he wanted. But one thing, Solomon desired above all was wisdom. And God, pleased with this request, gave it to King Solomon. He became a very wise man. Solomon wrote several books of the Bible called the “wisdom books”. There was Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Song of Solomon (which is a bit of a racy book), and a couple of Psalms. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Yes, that’s a lot of women.

And he even built the first Jewish temple (house of the Lord) which held The Ark of the Covenant. It was a seven-year building project. He did fall away from God, no surprise there. He became worldly with all his riches and worshipped other gods. I guess, we are human and do err. It’s not right, but it does happen.

We’re going to look at Ecclesiastes. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8. Here are some wise points. I’ve added commentary as to how I understood the verses because this is how they have spoken to me. I’m not a theologian or a Bible scholar, but I believe I have to obey the Holy Spirit to put down these thoughts. It’s helped me. I pray it helps you too. Of course, I HIGHLY INVITE YOU TO DO FURTHER RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN.

Here we go: Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

There has been so much written on season and reason for people, events, and how circumstances have come into your lives. People often ask, how come certain friends stay all your life, and others leave? Well, just like the seasons, which change in their due time, people and situations do as well, right? So, is there a season for your purpose? You are given an appointed time in your life and things will happen.

A time to be born, and a time to die;

Ahh… yes. Reality is, you were born, and the other reality is that you will die. It doesn’t matter what you do to prolong the inevitable, that is the truth. Now, the other thing is taxes, you will pay them too. It’s not written here, but assume that it is also true.

a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

Just like a gardener who plants seeds at certain times of the year, you too, need to plant in your life. For example, tulips. The bulbs are usually planted in the fall so that they can come up in the spring. But, the other side is, plucking out, taking away what has been planted. If what you planted isn’t growing, then it might be time to pluck it out and move on to different soil.

A time to kill, and a time to heal;

Now this isn’t a literal meaning of going out to kill. But sometimes it could mean killing off a toxic relationship, addiction, a horrible job, etc. Other times, it means healing that broken connection that was once severed.

a time to break down, and a time to build up;

You know the expression; if it ain’t broke; don’t break it. Breaking something down, and removing a wall in life is what you need. Then, building it up again, better and stronger than before.

A time to weep, and a time to laugh;

We all have weeping seasons. When you’re down to the last dollar and can’t pay for rent. You’ve lost your job and your kids are hungry. Your spouse has left you. You’ve been robbed, etc. The lists are long. These are cries for help. Don’t squash the weeping period. It could be a cleansing time.

And then there is a time for joy and laughter. Weddings, graduations, awards, vacations. Celebrate the victories! And if the people around you can’t celebrate with you, it’s time to change those people out. We should be happy for other people’s successes, not be grumpy or jealous of them.

a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

The mourning, like death. We will all lose people we love in our lifetime. Mourning is God’s way of telling us we are mortal. We aren’t supposed to live forever in our flesh on this earth, but rather have eternal life with Him. In mourning, we grieve. No two people can grieve the same way. Give yourself time to mourn your losses.

On the other spectrum is dancing. You know the saying… dance like no one is watching. Move your body. I love it when little children just move and dance around. It’s so freeing. We need to tap into our “inner child” a lot more and be in awe and wonder.

A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;

We all get hit (not in the literal sense) by someone who has tried hurting us. There will be times when you have to “cast away” those stones from making an emotional impact on your life. Learn to swerve to protect your soul. Then, there is the “gathering stones” season. Building up your armory to again, protect yourself, and your loved ones.

a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;

Hugging is great. Good for the soul. The touch of a human can heal. Hug if the season requires it. When you want to be alone, do that too. I always tell people the best conversations are with yourself.

A time to get, and a time to lose;

There will be winners and there will be losers. It happens in sports, it happens with the lottery, it happens with anything competitive. Learn to accept both in its due season.

a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

For those that like to hold onto “stuff”, this is for you. That leather jacket you’ve had in your closet from 1977 that doesn’t fit, throw it away. Your grandmother’s wedding band, that, you can keep. Do some decluttering of your home and on your insides—your mind! There are moments when you need to decide when to draw a line versus hold the line. Use your discernment.

A time to rend, and a time to sew;

A time to tear up and throw away. Invest in a paper shredder. Stop looking at your ex-boyfriend’s high school love letters when your heart should be given to your current spouse.

Just like relationships gone bad, if it’s worthy of repairs, do it. Repent. Stop harboring stupid arguments that in reality won’t matter at the funeral.

a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;

There are seasons of silence. When people in your life are no good, the best thing to do is walk away. Don’t be suckered into a fight. However, when you believe in something. Stand up for it! Fight for it! Be brave.

A time to love, and a time to hate;

This one is tricky. Can you love and hate the same person at different times of your life? I believe so. Make sure that the hate part doesn’t last that long. Hate and strife can hurt your well-being.

a time of war, and a time of peace.

Well, no one is free of wars in their lives. Rumors of wars, family wars, generational wars, and on and on we go. As Solomon said… there is nothing new under the sun. Which also means there will be times of peace too. So, embrace the PEACE when it comes.

In all these verses, I found nothing here that tells to me to quit. This is the sum of our lives. It doesn’t go round and round like the earth. It’s seasonal. Some may experience all of these verses. Others, a few. Whatever the reason for the season in your appointed life, don’t quit, ever. I won’t and neither should you. And that’s what I’ve gathered from Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.

I’ll leave you with this final quote, from the author himself, King Solomon: “Vanity of vanities, says the Preacher, vanity of vanities! All is vanity.” Ecclesiastes 1:2; 12:8.

 

References:

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+3%3A1-8&version=NKJV

Ecclesiastes 1:2. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+1%3A2&version=NKJV

Ecclesiastes 12:8. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+12%3A8&version=NKJV

https://www.learnreligions.com/king-david-leader-of-ancient-israel-2076644

https://www.learnreligions.com/king-solomon-wisest-man-who-ever-lived-701168

https://overviewbible.com/solomon/

Read the Books of 1 and 2 Samuel, and 1 and 2 Chronicles, Psalms, Nehemiah, and Mathew.

 

 

 

Prayers and Praises Request Box – New Beginnings in 2024

 

My new word for the 2024 year is Release. I don’t believe in resolutions but I find that a word of the year helps me to stay focused. I often remind myself to intentionally do THAT WORD which has come to my mind in the new year.

Release this year will be enlightening others about any wisdom that I’ve been learning and storing up. I may not know everything about everything, but I’ve been around a bit to come away with some knowledge and understanding. Plus, every opportunity is an opportunity to share, whether it’s my Bible study, faith testimonies, life hacks, teachable moments with my kids, etc. On the flipside, it’s releasing toxic relationships, releasing past failures. Releasing situations that I think I can do in my own strength when in reality, I can’t; instead, sending it up to God to fight my battles and making a way. TRUSTING HIM MORE.

Along with that, I’ll be habitually writing down my Prayers and Praises, and encouraging my husband and kids to do the same. As I told them, let’s try it, we have nothing to lose.

I pray continually, it’s the best conversation in my head, but writing prayers down and dropping them in a box THAT NO ONE WILL READ is freeing and encouraging. I won’t have to carry the burdens but rather let THEM go. And with praises, being in CONSTANT thankfulness for those nuggets of HALLELUJAH that the Lord sprinkles in my life.

As my teenage daughter has said for the coming year, “Continue, but DIFFERENTLY.”

That’s my approach this 2024. What’s yours?

I am Israel

 

Scorned, envied, and hated for doing righteousness in the eyes of the Lord. Alone, I fight the darkest of battles every day. My insides have been ripped apart. There is nothing left but scarred bones.

Where art thou God? Why has this iniquity come upon me?

I’ve repented, turned from my wicked ways, and kept Your Covenant. I’ve removed all the images and idols from all the high places.

Why have you forsaken me, Lord?

I’ve put on Your Whole Armor, but the fiery darts keep coming. I witnessed the manifestation of darkness that has invaded my every being. Go away…

I know the Light! I know the Light! I’m trying to keep the candle wick from burning out, but a ferocious wind comes and extinguishes it. The wick, my wick is bending slowly into the hot wax. I’m burning!

I’ve cried out! Do you hear me? I’m surrounded. Help me break free, Jesus!!

I fall to the ground and cover my head and body with the earth and sob. I hear the muffled trampling of feet in the distance. A slumber overtakes me and all goes quiet. No one can hear me anymore…

Time passes and my body tingles to life. Slowly, my bones and muscles move. I shake off the crusty dirt and open my eyes. A shiny new sword appears in my hand.

Standing, I hear rumbling and then a booming voice coming from the clouds, “Behold, it is finished. Your fight is over, my child. Walk away. Go in peace.”

Let’s Dance the Last Dance in 2023

I need you by me

Beside me to guide me

To hold me, to scold me

‘Cause when I’m bad, I’m so, so bad

I’ve been around long enough to experience and dance to this song at many, many weddings. Do you know the song? Here’s a hint. It has always been the last song to be played before a wedding celebration has concluded.

Drum roll…

It’s none other than Donna Summer’s 1978 Last Dance. When the DJ would start the song, all the party guests knew too. We’d file onto the dance floor and let loose.

So let’s dance the last dance

Let’s dance the last dance

Let’s dance this last dance tonight

There was hope in these lyrics. It talked about finishing strong, not wasting the night, taking a risk, falling in love, and leaving IT ALL ON THE DANCE FLOOR.

We’re all looking for someone to guide us, love us, hold us, and scold us when we err. As we close out 2023, this is how I’m feeling. God has provided for me (Jehovah Jireh) each time during this year. He’s made a way when I believed there was no way, and He’s always been a good, good Father to me.

It hasn’t been an easy year for me and my family. Through it all, the Lord was there. It was a miracle that I was able to finish and publish my fifth publication, The Rekindler. I wrote it in 2009 and released it on December 18, 2023.

I don’t know what 2024 will look like in my writing endeavor. I am not sure I’ll continue to write any more books. It’s in God’s Hands. All I know is that I NEED God to guide me, hold me, and scold me when needed, so I can get back on track.

In ending this year, I don’t want to be like Lot’s wife in Sodom who looked back and turned into a pillar of salt. Genesis 19:26. I want to be like the farmer who put his hand on the plow and never looked back. Who kept moving forward. Luke 9:62.

Next year is an election year. There are wars and rumors of wars around us constantly. The world is beautifully chaotic. And, time and life don’t stop.

I know how I’m going to end 2023, so let’s dance the last dance, shall we? Here’s hoping you dance in 2024.

Happy New Year!!

P.S. Be sure to watch Donna Summer’s video – Last Dance.

 

The Making of the Rekindler: An Author’s Explanation

The Making of The Rekindler is a short story about one man’s vision for a revival, a return to God in the backdrop of a one-world government and one-world religion. Due out December 23rd, 2023.

More info will be coming out for pre-orders.

For those who think writing is easy, it’s not. I’m often asked how the process is. Using this tale, I’ve put together a little video on how I made The Rekindler come to fruition. In a nutshell, there are many steps:

  1. Idea. This story was birthed in 2009. Resurrected in 2022, and then paused, and then resurrected again in 2023.
  2. Writing and writing, and typing. It took years. Lots of stop and go.
  3. Editing and rewriting.
  4. Beta readers review.
  5. Cover revision; revamping and design.
  6. Editorial reviews.
  7. Editing, editing, editing.
  8. Marketing fun with merchandise, cards, hats, and shirts.
  9. Proof receipts from POD platforms: Amazon KDP, Ingram Spark, Smashwords, and Draft2Digital.
  10. More promo and communication to the readers and fans.
  11. Release of publication: December 23rd., 2023.
  12. Prayer to bless all those who read this book.
  13. For readers to pass it on…

Click here to see the video.

Thank you to all who have supported me and my writings all these years. I’m grateful.

Until next time…

Be well. Be safe. Be happy.

Catch the Story via Relatable Voice Podcast

Hello everyone,

I had an opportunity to participate in Lucia Matuonto’s Catch the Story via Relatable Voice Podcast. Catch the Story is where authors, speakers, and artists of all kinds get to share a story, a testimony, or anything inspirational and encouraging to audiences who love listening to podcasts. Another one of Lucia’s creative endeavors.

I wrote a little story called: “If the Roux isn’t good, then it’s the Pan!” Click here to listen to the podcast. After my story, you can listen to Linda Drattall’s tale.

For transcript readers out there, you can find the written prose below. Enjoy!

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Wisdom often comes through experiences. Whether those experiences have been good or bad, it’s what you do with that learning which propels you for failure or success in your next life adventures.

I say all that to tell you this: Winter is coming. A season filled with hot drinks and soups. We can’t control the upcoming season, but we can prepare our attitude and the direction to go.

A good French chef will always be very particular about their Roux when making such dishes as mac and cheese, potato leek, beef stews, gravies, lasagnas, gumbos,  bechamel, Creole, and Cajun cuisines.

A Roux (pronounced roo). France is often regarded as the birthplace of the Roux. It’s deeply embedded in the country’s gastronomic identity. From the elegant boulevards of Paris and moving across the Atlantic to the vibrant streets of New Orleans, roux has woven its magic, becoming an integral part of many culinary traditions. Understanding “how to make a roux” is more than just mastering a recipe; it’s about appreciating its cultural significance.

Our lives are like a Roux. You need special ingredients to take care of yourself, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

However, life throws you curves and sometimes things don’t always turn out like you hoped. For me and I’ll digress a bit. I can cook a meal, no problem. I actually enjoy cooking for my family. When it comes to baking, eh forget about it. For one, I know I have a problem with following cooking instructions. I grew up in an Italian household where you taste everything, and your palette is the measuring tool. So, you either put less salt, more pepper, or add a pinch of something else. With baking, well, it’s all about the measuring and that’s not me. I applaud you bakers out there.

Anyhow, back to the Roux. I did some research and found that making Roux requires precise measurements. Each ingredient has to be perfect. You also have to have the right utensils and a good pan.

At its core, a roux is a simple combination of:

  • Fat: This can be butter (most common), oil, or even animal fats like lard or duck fat.
  • Flour: Typically all-purpose flour, but variations can be used based on dietary needs or desired outcomes. gluten-free, cake flour, etc.

What makes roux universally appealing is its ability to:

  • Enhance Flavor: Beyond just thickening, roux adds depth and richness to dishes.
  • Provide Consistency: It ensures that sauces, soups, and stews have the desired texture.
  • Serve as a Culinary Canvas: Roux is versatile, allowing chefs to infuse it with various flavors, adapting to the dish’s requirements.

Now I know why dishes are so yummy.

Steps To Making A Perfect Roux

  1. Select Your Flour: All-purpose flour.
  2. Select Your Fat: While butter is traditional, don’t shy away from experimenting with different oils or fats such as Lard, bacon grease, duck fat, Canola, vegetable, olive, sunflower, and more
  3. Equal Parts: A standard roux requires equal measurements of fat and flour. For instance, if you use 2 tablespoons of butter, you’ll need 2 tablespoons of flour.
  4. Heat Mechanism: In a skillet, or saucepan, heavy-bottomed pan, cast-iron skillet
  5. Darn good whisker utensil in Flour: Gradually add the flour, whisking continuously to prevent lumps because it is your best friend.
  6. Continuous Motion – Some muscle

 Close your eyes and pretend to make a Beef stew using 1lb of Beef Chuck Roast cut in cubes, and an assortment of delightful vegetables. We start with the Roux. Adding 4oz of butter and 6oz of all-purpose flour.

But then, wait. Something goes wrong! The roux is lumping. Oh no! That’s a cardinal sin, and suddenly the roux is ruined. Maybe you should have added duck fat instead and less flour? So, you change your ingredients and start again. Same result. Hmmm ….. what’s going on? Finally, after some whisking soul searching per se, it dawns on you. It’s not the ingredients. It’s the pan!

You see, there are people that have stuck themselves in your pan. Stuck like week-old, caked grease. No matter how many times you’ve changed the roux ingredients, it always gets ruined. You change your life, get in shape, quit smoking, move to another part of the country, get a new job, etc. Whatever, you’ve tried to do to cut ties, and change for the better, as in the roux ingredients, you’re mixing your NEW roux with a tainted pan.

Ouch, I know that’s rough; I get it. We have to learn to move away from toxic relationships. Like changing your outfits when the seasons call for a sweater instead of wearing a tank top. So, what do you do with this sticky and greasy situation? Get rid of your pan. Clean out your pantry.

Your roux should not be ruined by the pan you’re forced to use.

Happy cooking! Live joyously!

 

References

https://www.authentichospitalitygroup.com/recipes/how-to-make-a-roux/

https://www.eatingwell.com/article/7889455/how-to-make-a-roux/#:~:text=A%20roux%20%28pronounced%20roo%29%20is%20a,and%20can%20help%20improve%20the%20flavor%2C&text=A%20roux%20%28pronounced%20roo%29,help%20improve%20the%20flavor%2C&text=%28pronounced%20roo%29%20is%20a,and%20can%20help%20improve

 

I Can See Clearly – The Thanksgiving Thank You!

This is an encouragement to myself. A declaration of knowledge to the universe. I use “universe” loosely because it’s not to the universe, but to the One who created the universe, God.

This Thanksgiving and each and every day, I’m thankful for:

  • Discernment, learning that my circumstances are not a result of vibes and feelings, but understanding the things I can and cannot control.
  • Clearer vision, not so much an improved vision that I don’t need glasses, but seeing all the things around me and what’s happening in the world, and how God is showing me how he’s piecing everything together.
  • Compassion toward others. Kindness does matter. Our tongues have the power to make and break someone with our words. Using our words and time effectively.
  • Prayer time. Communication with the Lord. Getting in my secret place. Refining my relationship with Jesus. Inviting the Holy Spirit to dwell in me.
  • My kids. Seeing them grow. Seeing them experience life, and figuring things out for themselves. Doing my best to equip them with the right tools to live righteously.
  • My husband. My confidant, my friend, my lover. Our lives and marriage are far from perfect, but appreciating the gift of companionship and we weave through life’s challenges.
  • My writings. I’m no bestselling author, but I write what I unashamedly write because of God. He and He alone will always be my audience.
  • Overall health. Yes, the bones ache, and the mind gets foggy, but I am grateful for every pain and migraine. Uncomfortable as it may be, I know it’s a reminder to treat my body like a temple and keep it clean.
  • The people who have come into my life and those who have left. Through seasons of valleys and hills, I know Jesus has meant it for His good and glory, and not my own.
  • My own failures throughout the year to my loved ones and strangers. I’m sorry I didn’t come through when I should have. Please forgive me.
  • Lastly, I’m thankful for a merciful God who always takes me and intercedes for me when I am unable.

Turkey, mashed potatoes, and green beans comes one day of the year. But being thankful should be an everyday practice.

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

Photo by Wallace Chuck: https://www.pexels.com/photo/grayscale-photography-of-folded-eyeglasses-2097085/

Photo by EKATERINA BOLOVTSOVA: https://www.pexels.com/photo/roasted-turkey-on-black-ceramic-plate-5702776/

 

The Prayer Request versus the Prayer Process

Why is it that we are so focused on the prayer request but then stumble during the prayer process?

In Mathew 14: 22-33 we read about Jesus walking on water during a storm toward a boat that was carrying the disciples. One of the disciples was Peter. He asks Jesus to command him to come out of the boat to meet him. Jesus’ response was, “Yes, come.”

When we pray, often it’s an ‘ask’,  such as, “Lord, please can you heal my loved one from whatever is ailing them.” Another is “God, please get me through this day without no problems, etc.” Why are we so focused on the asking? What is Jesus going to say, no? The prayer request should be a declaration, a decree; you need to have assurance that the Lord will provide and make a way for you. (Jehovah Jireh). Where’s the faith, friends? What has Jesus told us before in Mathew 7:7. “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”

As you continue reading you find that Peter goes over the boat and into the water. He’s doing okay walking on the sea until he notices the winds and the waves around him. Fear strikes him. Rather than keeping his attention on Jesus, he gets distracted and slips into the water, crying out to the Lord to be saved.

Hence, the faltering when our eyes are taken off Jesus during the process: the waiting, the testing, etc. Yes, it’s our human impatience that gets the best of us. If only we could endure till the end.

You know the expression that says something like this, “It’s the journey, not the destination that counts.” There’s a lot of truth to that. In this particular scripture, one of the many lessons learned (and there are several in these ten verses) is making your prayer requests focused and staying focused. Most importantly, believing in God’s timing that He will provide.

 

Photo by Atahan Demir: https://www.pexels.com/photo/anonymous-person-in-clear-water-7204553/

 

Don’t Break a Sweat

This morning I woke up out of a deep dream. I was playing tennis with Novak Djokovic. Yes, the world’s best tennis player right now. We were in an enclosed court with a tall black fence all around us. We weren’t playing per se, or volleying back and forth. Rather, we were serving the ball to one another. When Novak served, his balls often went over my head and got caught in the fence. My serves tended to curve to the left. For some reason, I was winning the serves.

When it was my last serve, which I didn’t know that it was going to be my last time, I approached the line. Bouncing the ball twice, I was getting ready to hit it, but instead, I let the racket swing down. Like a fake swing. From the corner of my eye, I saw Novak shift and move side-to-side. He readied back into position, and I bounced the ball again, once this time, and hit it. It curved to the left again. I was hoping it would land in the center of the box on the other side of the net, but it touched down in the upper-left-hand corner of the box, instead.

Novak returned the serve, and the ball flew out of bounds over my head, falling behind me. As I turned around to retrieve the ball, a woman with a ponytail and dressed in white tennis apparel approached me. She was all smiles. The court suddenly brightened, and she congratulated me on winning. I wasn’t shocked or surprised, but I thanked her anyway. It was then I noticed a couple of people folding a dark gray canopy off of the net. It’s one of those canopies or coverings on a patio set, at least that’s what it looked like to me. I realized the challenges of my serves and Novak’s serves were a result of that canopy hovering over the net.

Novak Djokovic ran up to me and congratulated me as well, and then he hugged me. My last thought in his embrace was … “I didn’t break a sweat.”

As I think of this dream and what I can glean from it, is that I had the assurance of winning, thus, not breaking a sweat or fretting about it. I felt peace. Novak is a good representation of the world, hitting back at me, and making me run for the ball all over the court. And the canopy can represent God’s hand in everything. He removes the darkness, He removes the pains, He removes our sorrows, etc.

So today, rest assured that whatever you do, God’s got this. Our job is to show up and serve, using our gifts for His glory. So, don’t break a sweat.

Until next time. Be well. Be safe. Be happy.

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